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Dear Dewi Lestari, Thank you for Supernova!

Dear Dewi Lestari,

“I love it” is way too simplistic to describe how I feel about the final version of Supernova series. I felt deeply connected to each story, and felt rushing pulses each time Ive finished a book. A selfish love that does not need reprocity for its monolog has given so many real-moments that will be enough for a lifetime of imagination.

Thank you!
#supernova #IEP #ADDeection

View on Path

We are only accidents waiting to happen. And how to wing it.

We live a life, waiting for accidents to happen.
When you’re in a plane, when you ride your car.
Each and every routine of living itself carries an authentic set of loosing.
So, why are we so afraid doing something unfamiliar, most of the times?

I guess the secret to a meaningful life, is not always about being happy all the time. But, it is about not being afraid of living, and co-exist with the possibility of unhappiness.
Living life passionately and unafraid of the where the course leads, is indeed a perilous path. But- since when, the very concept of life is not itself dangerous, intrusive, and risky?

No matter of what pathological childhood nor emotional hang-ups from past life you may carry, choose other weapon rather than avoidance; and be brave to brace yourself tightly. Most of the times, you will be on your own. Life; is not a wish granting factory. Avoiding defeat and not admitting depression; are at the very tip of igniting depression.

But, what about destiny?
Won’t destiny change your life?
Isn’t everything you do is predestined anyway?

I guess, destiny is merely a guess. A guess that thinks it knows what you would do, and what will happen to you like the intuition of a mother. But you can change it, and there is always room for improvisation. The best time to be alive is not when finally you can strut and brag about the things you have~ but on the contrary, is lowering yourself to the beggar position and trying to be the one who is kinder, loving deeper, and sacrifice braver. LET YOUR GUARD DOWN. Nobody can come across if you built it too high.

The only times I got really cut open are the times I’m not listening to my heart and let my rationales lead the way and crushes everything. My heart tries to create ridiculous standard for myself and my rationale “ratios” it down.

But by all means, you only get one chance. It’s THIS LIFE, It’s NOW or NEVER; so please do create ridiculous standard for yourself and then savour the inevitable failure. Let your heart learn from it and co-habit with the thorn until it became a part of you. Let the ground cracks and rocks crumble, that’s how something amazing grows~ through the cracks.

We are not always in the search of beautiful things, in fact, we are in constant pursuit to make things around us, beautiful.

Some Thought in the streets of Jakarta
-xta

Just the one you need to read after you loose the one you thought is ‘the one’.

The 8 Guilty Feelings After Breaking Up

So, I say raise your expectations. Elongate your process. Lay on your death bed with a to-do list a mile long and smile at the infinite opportunity granted to you. Create ridiculous standards for yourself and then savor the inevitable failure. Learn from it. Live it. Let the ground crack and rocks crumble around you because that’s how something amazing grows, through the cracks.

Happiness Is Not Lowering Your Expectation 🙂

Or in Coelho’s words :

The Warrior of the light sometimes behaves like water. Flowing around the obstacle he encounters.
Therein lies the strength of water : it cannot be touched by a hammer or ripped to shreds by a knife. The strongest sword in the world cannot scar its surface.
The river adapts itself to whatever route proves possible, but the river never forgets its one objective : the sea.
Fragile at its source, after a certain point, its power, absolute.

(Warrior of Light – Paulo Coelho) – View on Path.

Love First, Die Later.

If-you-have-good-thoughts

 

Why don’t you practice any of these three optional habits to make your life more ecstatic? 

1. Falling in Love

People nowadays admitted that falling in love is hard.

Falling in love – is actually by far the easiest thing in the world for mankind. It just happens. No clue, no announcement. Boom.

However, people complicate their feeling by not showing it, by not being brutally honest about it, coating it with layers of ego because they protect themselves from rejections.

I understand that rejections are sometimes the core of – a lot of problems and shitty times. After rejections, you feel you’re not worth it, unaccepted, unwanted; etc.

But truth is – the search of love is not all about yourself. It’s basically about looking for true human connection. Keeping your option open and always try to communicate joy and connection to as many people possible.

lust

Whatever connection you can get – love or lust, temporary or forever, the entry point doesn’t really matter. Some of the happiest endings, might come from, well, you know “happy endings”.

I mean, as long as you’re happy- just keep on going.

“I’d far rather be happy than right any day.” -Douglas Adams

happy boy

 

Falling in love is gem. Life is a whole scavenger hunt scheme build around the search of this treasure. So, just enjoy the game! Take the search day by day, no deadline no rush, put trust in chemistry, and the little cosmic microdynamism that processes around you namely; coincidence, timing, accidents, mercury retrogrades.

And at one point, you might think that the one you love might actually be THE ONE because you can’t get him out of your head.

But when he’s not, you know what always comes after “the one”, right?

THE NEXT ONE.

So, move on.

Believe what is written for you is the best, and it is yet to come. Have faith, have hope, be more original and true until one day, this one particular being stops you from over-thinking and manifest every hyperconnection you have made. He asks your hand and draw all the thoughts that once were only stars in your head, into a constellation.

 

2. Being in Love

being in love

However, as we mature, we learn tricks to defy ourselves from pain of relationships and learn to mitigate risks.  Unknowingly, this type of behaviour is a mechanical brain job that could really damage your life.

Never, take the easier way just because we wanted to avoid pain.

There is a natural and undefined process on problem solving, and when we learn to do things the easier ways over time, predict bad decisions beforehand, we will arrive to a mediocre life result.

Why? Because just like you, everybody else could count the common risks! So little use their intuition and even lessser believe on how a success path is already being paved by the cosmic energy from the day you were born.

Taking the hard way does not mean you have to fix all the problems of the world. You always have a choice, you can run, you can hide, and you can always say NO in exchange of the bigger YES – when the time comes. Learn the tricks of escapeism –  and this not because you’re giving up, but you’re growing up.

And – being in love, being in a relationship is always about taking action at the first step of naked intuition.

wish do

Even sometimes, you need to give up what you want right now for what you want the MOST. When at one time you feel like you want to do it, don’t even think about it. Believe in it, take action because of that one single moment of bliss is enough for a lifetime of NOT regretting what you actually wanted to do.

So go on, say hi to that girl you’ve always like.

“Happiness is not a goal…it’s a by-product of a life well lived.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

happy live

 

3. Loving.

Nevertheless, relationships have always been associated with hardships.

Every philosophers of the century got its own rendition of the complicatedness of love. Shakespeare said “The course of true love never runs smooth”, Marley said “If she’s amazing she wont be easy, if she’s easy she wont be amazing”. All our great thinkers signaled us that finding love is a real pain in the ass.

pain in the ass

Well actually, there is another path of love that doesn’t really require a relationship like “being in love”.

Welcome to the world of “loving”.

Unlike being in love where you require two people in one scene, loving could be anywhere, anytime, with anyone or anything.

When I was in Bali, I’m loving every morning when the scent of ‘canang’ (Balinese offerings) vapours. When the day blooms and people start giving their offerrings on the streets; the smell of jasmine, frangipani, and hibiscus incense fill the air then slips directly to my heart.

canang

I’m loving every certain sunset when the sky is clear and dripping with its golden lemon rays and cherry blush cotton cloud.

The world is full of small little things that can make your live felt more divine. And if you could reiterate this feeling, making this as a lifestyle, you could become one of those super happy, super loving kinds.

Enjoy every bit and pieces. You’ve got the rest of a lifetime to take a break, settle down and disregard these little signs when you’re dead.

But for now, master the sense of patience like how Balinese people wait for the crops to grow, craft their art meticulously, and learn their dance by mini gestures of expression.

Now- Do you really think you want to die becaues of that single heartbreak?

“The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive, you will see it.” -Thích Nhất Hạnh

cheetah

Lies people tell themselves that keep them in jobs and careers and relationships that are bad for them. How can you tell they’re lies? Because lies keep us in situations that are bad for us. When we’re telling our truth, it feels good – it feels right.

But it’s often easier to have a victim mentality that the cards have been dealt and whatever you’ve ended up with is all you’ll ever have, or that you really have no options left, except terrible ones.

Happiness is a choice that you make. It isn’t a magical feeling that is bestowed upon us from some outside force.

because;

1). They can jump into your pants whenever they want by sending text messages that land in your pocket. 

2). Between alphabetized contact lists and auto-complete, names invoked in digital media can be a Freudian nightmare. When I search for “Dad” the similarly spelled name of an older man I once dated flickers across the screen

3). Inevitably Online, you watch your exes’ lives unfold parallel to yours—living, shifting digital portraits of roads not taken with partners you did not keep.

Ex* = not necessarily someone you’ve dated in a serious relationship. Any vacation flings, one night stands, and casual hook up will do.

1st World Digital Age Problem : You Can Never Leave Your “Ex*”

New dating rules to live by in the post-modern world (conducted based on research to hundreds of modern & happy couples). Brilliant. with Adithio and Adita – View on Path.

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