Why don’t you practice any of these three optional habits to make your life more ecstatic?
1. Falling in Love
People nowadays admitted that falling in love is hard.
Falling in love – is actually by far the easiest thing in the world for mankind. It just happens. No clue, no announcement. Boom.
However, people complicate their feeling by not showing it, by not being brutally honest about it, coating it with layers of ego because they protect themselves from rejections.
I understand that rejections are sometimes the core of – a lot of problems and shitty times. After rejections, you feel you’re not worth it, unaccepted, unwanted; etc.
But truth is – the search of love is not all about yourself. It’s basically about looking for true human connection. Keeping your option open and always try to communicate joy and connection to as many people possible.
Whatever connection you can get – love or lust, temporary or forever, the entry point doesn’t really matter. Some of the happiest endings, might come from, well, you know “happy endings”.
I mean, as long as you’re happy- just keep on going.
“I’d far rather be happy than right any day.” -Douglas Adams
Falling in love is gem. Life is a whole scavenger hunt scheme build around the search of this treasure. So, just enjoy the game! Take the search day by day, no deadline no rush, put trust in chemistry, and the little cosmic microdynamism that processes around you namely; coincidence, timing, accidents, mercury retrogrades.
And at one point, you might think that the one you love might actually be THE ONE because you can’t get him out of your head.
But when he’s not, you know what always comes after “the one”, right?
THE NEXT ONE.
So, move on.
Believe what is written for you is the best, and it is yet to come. Have faith, have hope, be more original and true until one day, this one particular being stops you from over-thinking and manifest every hyperconnection you have made. He asks your hand and draw all the thoughts that once were only stars in your head, into a constellation.
2. Being in Love
However, as we mature, we learn tricks to defy ourselves from pain of relationships and learn to mitigate risks. Unknowingly, this type of behaviour is a mechanical brain job that could really damage your life.
Never, take the easier way just because we wanted to avoid pain.
There is a natural and undefined process on problem solving, and when we learn to do things the easier ways over time, predict bad decisions beforehand, we will arrive to a mediocre life result.
Why? Because just like you, everybody else could count the common risks! So little use their intuition and even lessser believe on how a success path is already being paved by the cosmic energy from the day you were born.
Taking the hard way does not mean you have to fix all the problems of the world. You always have a choice, you can run, you can hide, and you can always say NO in exchange of the bigger YES – when the time comes. Learn the tricks of escapeism – and this not because you’re giving up, but you’re growing up.
And – being in love, being in a relationship is always about taking action at the first step of naked intuition.
Even sometimes, you need to give up what you want right now for what you want the MOST. When at one time you feel like you want to do it, don’t even think about it. Believe in it, take action because of that one single moment of bliss is enough for a lifetime of NOT regretting what you actually wanted to do.
So go on, say hi to that girl you’ve always like.
“Happiness is not a goal…it’s a by-product of a life well lived.” -Eleanor Roosevelt
Nevertheless, relationships have always been associated with hardships.
Every philosophers of the century got its own rendition of the complicatedness of love. Shakespeare said “The course of true love never runs smooth”, Marley said “If she’s amazing she wont be easy, if she’s easy she wont be amazing”. All our great thinkers signaled us that finding love is a real pain in the ass.
Well actually, there is another path of love that doesn’t really require a relationship like “being in love”.
Welcome to the world of “loving”.
Unlike being in love where you require two people in one scene, loving could be anywhere, anytime, with anyone or anything.
When I was in Bali, I’m loving every morning when the scent of ‘canang’ (Balinese offerings) vapours. When the day blooms and people start giving their offerrings on the streets; the smell of jasmine, frangipani, and hibiscus incense fill the air then slips directly to my heart.
I’m loving every certain sunset when the sky is clear and dripping with its golden lemon rays and cherry blush cotton cloud.
The world is full of small little things that can make your live felt more divine. And if you could reiterate this feeling, making this as a lifestyle, you could become one of those super happy, super loving kinds.
Enjoy every bit and pieces. You’ve got the rest of a lifetime to take a break, settle down and disregard these little signs when you’re dead.
But for now, master the sense of patience like how Balinese people wait for the crops to grow, craft their art meticulously, and learn their dance by mini gestures of expression.
Now- Do you really think you want to die becaues of that single heartbreak?
“The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive, you will see it.” -Thích Nhất Hạnh